Sticks and stones may break my bones...

Earlier today I was spending some time with a friend...a friend that I haven't seen for awhile & so she noticed my weightloss, but instead of saying something encouraging or simply nice like "You look great" or whatever, she chose to say, "Mandie, you carry your weight well."


...Now, I KNOW that she might have meant this as a compliment, but really? How much of a back-handed compliment can you give? You might as well just say that I'm pretty heavy but at least I can hide it. It was very frustrating. Then to make things worse, before she left she said, "You look alot better." Better than what? How hideous I looked before? Thanks alot...


Anyways, I think the reason that this hurt/bothered me so much is because I am starting to actually really like my body. I am proud of it and more confident than ever before...and her comment made me second-guess that for awhile. It made me wonder if I need to lose a little more weight or ALOT more weight. I hate that. That feeling of not being good enough or never being able to measure up.


I guess I'm just writing all of this out in order to say that as we all know, the old saying:
Sticks and Stones May Break my Bones, But words will never hurt me...
Is as false as the statement that the moon is made out of cheese.


But I can control my response. My reaction. I need to learn that people aren't always out to hurt me, but I also need to think about my own words before I speak so that nobody takes my meaning behind things wrong. Today's Lesson: Think Before You Speak.